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What it Means to be Happy

Melvyn Tan
Melvyn Tan
1 min read

During the last therapy session, I told my therapist that I hardly get angry these days.

But that does not mean I am happy.

Which led me to think about what it means to be happy.

Happiness means different things to different people.

So, what makes you happy might not make me happy.

Therefore, I think there is a need to define it.

What is not happiness

First, let us define what is not happiness.

Happiness is not about having more things.

When we moved this year, I seized the opportunity to clear out as many things from my life as possible.

I did not use the “does it spark joy” as a criteria. I did, however, asked myself “does having this add value to my life”.

I found myself throwing a lot out, selling some for junk, and donating the better ones away.

I soon realized it is not about having more things; but having the essential ones that brings me happiness.

This is happiness

Happiness is about these things:

  • Waking up each day.
  • Reminding myself I am given the opportunity today to use my God-given talent to serve God, make a positive impact, and earn a living.
  • Being able to invest time with my family.
  • To hold the hands of my wife and children.
  • To make progress towards the fulfillment of my mission of helping others realize and multiply their talents

These to me are the essentials. 

These to me makes life purposeful.

These to me define happiness.

Melvyn Tan

Despite living the good life at midlife, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. My aim here is to reinvent midlife, learn new skills, and understand how the world works post-COVID.