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Taking Charge Of Your Narrative

Melvyn Tan
Melvyn Tan
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Taking Charge Of Your Narrative

When I first shared my plan with my friends, I get one of two reactions: you are insane or you are brave.

One-year travel adventure

The plan was to sell off literally everything we have in Singapore and travel to Europe and USA for a year.

During the trip, we will give our children the best learning experience ever. We will teach them about the history, culture, and the arts of the places we visit.

And not only do they get to learn about it, they will also get the opportunity to experience it first hand.

Break away from the narrative

When Rhea and I became parents, we were initially sucked into the narrative that many other new parents subscribe to, which is:

  • send the child to the best preschool you can afford,
  • sign the child up for as many weekend enrichment classes as you can possibly afford,
  • send them to the best primary school.

For a while, we did that and then it occurred to us that what we are teaching our child was to conform to societal norms. When we had that revelation, we made a conscious decision to invest time to be with our children during their early formative years.

We took it one-step further by designing the experience of a lifetime for them (and us too).

Take charge of your life

The 19th Century poet William Ernest Henley wrote these two lines:

I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.

Are you taking charge of your life? Or are you allowing others to make that decision for you? What about your children? Are you also allowing others to make that decision for them?

Melvyn Tan

Despite living the good life at midlife, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. My aim here is to reinvent midlife, learn new skills, and understand how the world works post-COVID.