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Know Your Life's Purpose

Melvyn Tan
Melvyn Tan
2 min read

Are you easily distracted? Do you find yourself bouncing from one idea to another? Are you having trouble focusing?

If any of these sounds familiar to you, then this post is for you.

What drives you

Some people are driven by possessions. They need to have the best and latest. They would do anything just to have the latest gadgets so they could show it off to their friends. I know people like these. I was one of them.

Some people are driven by money. They want to get rich. The quicker the better. They would even be willing to compromise their values just so they could earn a buck. I know people like these. I was one of them.

Some people are driven by fear. They are afraid of the consequences when they take action. They are afraid of the consequences when they don’t take action. I know people like these. I was one of them.

Some people are driven by approval. They seek the approval of their acquaintances, peers, friends, family. Even people they don’t like. I know people like these. I was one of them.

A clear mind

Nothing works better than having a clear mind. You know what you want. You know why you want it. You know, or at least you could figure out, how to get it.

Even when new opportunities come your way, you have a way to evaluate and determine if they are worth pursuing. Because you have a clear mind.

How do you have a clear mind? The answer is simple but the practice is not. Here are three ways to get you started.

Figure it out

Start figuring out what’s your life’s purpose. I highly recommend this book.

You are not going to magically discover your life’s purpose at the end of the book. But at least, it will set you thinking.

Think of the process as a journey, not a destination.

Begin with the end in mind

This is an exercise I get my participants to do during the Principles of Engage Mastery program.

They are to imagine they have passed on. Their spirits are at the funeral. They are listening to their own eulogy.

What would they want their loved ones and friends say about them?

Use your talent

This may sound odd, but hear me out. How you use your talent will determine whether you feel fulfilled.

If you use your talents only to pursue your own goals, you might be successful but you will not feel fulfilled. However, if you use your talents to not only pursue your goals but also to contribute to the world, chances are you will feel fulfilled.

In what ways are you using your talents to contribute to the world?

It’s a journey, not a destination

No one will know for sure what their life’s purpose is. But that doesn’t mean you should not even begin the journey to discover what it is.

Remember, it is a journey. Let me help you begin this journey now.

Melvyn Tan

Despite living the good life at midlife, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. My aim here is to reinvent midlife, learn new skills, and understand how the world works post-COVID.