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Identifying Shared Values

Melvyn Tan
Melvyn Tan
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If you were to start a new organization tomorrow in a different line of work, what core values would you build into the new organization regardless of its activities?

Jim Collins

Schools in Singapore will be closed starting next Wednesday.

The thought of having two young and active children being at home all the time is making me nervous.

So my wife and I decided to call for a family meeting. Our very first.

The purpose of the meeting was to identify a set of shared values.

Why this is important for us is because, through this set of shared values, we are able to:

  • Establish a set of expected behaviors, not only for the kids but also the adults
  • Use this set of expected behaviors to correct, and if necessary, discipline
  • Set up a reward system to encourage, support, and reinforce the expected behaviors

At the end of the meeting, everyone was excited to see how it would work.

Community shared values

When building a community, it is crucial to identify a set of shared values too.

Without it, members of the community would be unclear of what is expected of them. New members would observe first and emulate what appear to be the accepted norm.

That said, does it mean the set of expected behaviors should remain unchanged over time?

To answer that question, we turn to Jim Collins again. In his article, Aligning Action and Values, he has this to say:

Your core values and purpose, if properly conceived, remain fixed. Everything else—your practices, strategies, structures, systems, policies, and procedures—should be open for change.

Melvyn Tan

Despite living the good life at midlife, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. My aim here is to reinvent midlife, learn new skills, and understand how the world works post-COVID.