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Ego Gets In The Way

Melvyn Tan
Melvyn Tan
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Ego Gets In The Way

Impressing people is utterly different from being truly impressive.

Ryan HolidayThe Ego Is the Enemy

Last week I jumped on a call with three gentlemen. The purpose of the call was to determine if I am a good fit for their company.

Before I got on the call, I was feeling pretty pumped.

What happens after the call was a total surprise to me.

Started out trying to impress

At the start of the call, I was puffed up and felt the need to impress.

I mean, after all, I was going to be evaluated if I’m a good fit.

I was then asked to make a 10 minutes presentation on a topic of my choice.

Of course I chose the topic I knew best ― video.

I was in the flow

Several minutes into the presentation and I was in a flow state.

If you’re not familiar with the flow state, then check out Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi and this book.

In that state, I’ve totally forgotten about my need to impress. Instead, I was focused on giving my best during the presentation.

At the end of it, the three gentlemen gave me some positive inputs, as well as some suggestions for improvement.

The lesson for me was this.

If you allow it, your ego can get in the way.

Ego is when you think you know so much that you become arrogant.

Instead, confidence is when you know you can always become better, if you make an effort to learn.

Melvyn Tan

Despite living the good life at midlife, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. My aim here is to reinvent midlife, learn new skills, and understand how the world works post-COVID.