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Dealing With Anxieties

Melvyn Tan
Melvyn Tan
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Dealing With Anxieties

For those of us who are ambitious, sometimes we certainly bite off more than we can chew.

And that can create anxieties – the feeling of nervousness or worry about an uncertain outcome.

What causes anxieties

There are three factors that create anxieties for me.

  • Time: Lack of time is one key factor for me. Usually, that happens when I have so much to do and I don’t have enough time to finish them all.
  • Skill: Lack of skill is another factor. For instance, I’ve been wanting to install a bot for Facebook Messenger without much success.
  • Clarity: Lack of clarity will cause me to stare at my work and not knowing what to do next.

How I deal with anxieties

I’ve learned to cope with anxieties in three ways.

  • Write: Writing helps me clarify my thoughts and allow me to put in writing what I have in my mind. Oftentimes, when I start writing, I’d realize that those concerns or worries or fears are not as big as I thought they would be.
  • Give: Something good happens when you give. I now work against the flow. When I am in fear, I give. The more I give, the better I feel.
  • Vlog: I use the camera as a therapist. I speak to it. Just like writing, thoughts tend to disentangle themselves through my lips and pencil tips.

How do you cope with anxieties?

Melvyn Tan

Despite living the good life at midlife, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. My aim here is to reinvent midlife, learn new skills, and understand how the world works post-COVID.