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3 Things You Can Do To Cope With Fear

Melvyn Tan
Melvyn Tan
1 min read

The year was 2002.

The dot-com I’ve joined had just went bust.

I only had $15 left in my bank account.

Armed with only the competency of writing business plans, I decided to start my own consulting practice.

Though I was viewed as “gung-ho” for starting out on my own. Deep inside, I was shaking with fear.

“Would I be able to earn an income to support myself?”

I was still used to the idea of receiving a regular paycheck.

Had I not persisted, I would not be where I am today.

Here are three things I did to cope with fear. And the third is the one you don’t want to miss.

1. Seek out others

Success leaves clues.

Tony Robbins

I seek out people who have “been there, done that”.

I was lucky to have many people who wanted to help me. And this one advice changed my life.

Why re-invent the wheel when you can learn from the mistakes and experiences of others.

I have benefited from this not only for my business, but also for my personal life.

2. Dive deep

Not all readers are leaders, but all leaders are readers.

Harry S. Truman

Whether it is videos, business, or even parenting, I am one who needs to dive deep into the topic.

Not that I need to know how to do my accounts or taxes or write my own contracts.

Understanding the topic well enough definitely helps me make better decisions rather than rely solely on others.

3. Bias towards experimentation

Life is ‘trying things to see if they work.’

Ray Bradbury

Echoing Ray Bradbury, in business its about trying things to see if they work.

When I first started my consulting practice, I tried a lot of things.

Most of them failed. But the one strategy that worked grew my business by 350% in 6 months.

Don’t let fear cause you to stop taking actions.

Melvyn Tan

Despite living the good life at midlife, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. My aim here is to reinvent midlife, learn new skills, and understand how the world works post-COVID.